The irony of this post is that one might feel these are words of unsolicited advice in themselves. That’s not how this is intended. This is simply a reflection on my own experiences for you to use as you will.
Who’s Wise?
Wisdom is an amazing, intangible wealth of insight that is accumulated with experience. It’s the quality of gaining knowledge and sensible judgement through having lived. Wisdom holds no age limitation. However, there’s definitely something to be said for the expression ‘old and wise’. The more we see, the more we do, the more we learn. There’s nothing more exhilarating than being let into the consciousness of an elderly person. Saying that, I’ve met 12-year-olds who are remarkably wise… wisdom does not discriminate. She comes in many shapes and sizes.
My Wisdom vs your Wisdom
There are eight billion people on the planet, each with a completely unique experience of life. No two people are, or ever will be the same. Therefore, our wisdom becomes an integral part of our own blueprint. There’s no right or wrong, and no good or bad wisdom. Wisdom is wisdom! So, if wisdom is unique, we should remember that what people communicate is a projection of themselves, not us.
Be Humble
At the best of times, advice from others can be helpful, inspiring, and uplifting. Unfortunately, though, the opinions and ideas of our peers can often come across as judgemental, particularly when the advice is unwanted. When a ‘holier than thou’ attitude is perceived, this can cause the receiver to shut down altogether. Dude – don’t be that person! Instead try humility. Be quietly confident in your own skin, allowing your wisdom to be your guide and not everyone else’s. Listening silently without interrupting or offering advice is a skill, and more helpful than you might think.
Use it Wisely
When it comes to helping others, a mixture of empathy, curiosity, and non-judgment are surely the healthiest concoction. By approaching your peers with an open mind and a genuine desire to understand, you can build deeper connections and offer support in a way that’s meaningful. Remember, each person is unique, and their experiences shape who they are. So before you start reeling off your own words of wisdom, just pause. Open your mind, and be wise enough to learn from the greatest. As Socrates so eloquently put it – the only true wisdom is knowing you know nothing.
